A New Approach to Self-Care

 “A New Approach to Self-Care”


Lately, it seems like we live in a culture in which we equate our value as human beings with how busy we are and how many items we check off our “to-do” list each day.

And when our “to-do” lists spiral out of control, it’s tempting to carve out more time by neglecting our own needs (not getting enough sleep, eating fast food, skipping a trip to the gym, etc.)

But actually, when you feel really busy or stressed is the WORST possible time to abandon your self-care because studies have shown that neglecting your own self-care makes you LESS productive and efficient overall.

Self-Care Is Not a Luxury.

Self-care is an investment in the maintenance and rejuvenation of your body, mind and spirit. It’s absolutely necessary to help you be able to take on the stress and challenges that are constantly coming at you in our fast-paced world.

Self-Care Is Not Being Selfish.

You may have been taught that it’s noble and good to put the needs of others before your own. But actually, when you’re exhausted and stressed and cranky, how available are you really to support your loved ones?

When your needs are met, you can show up for others as the best version of yourself. You’ll be happier, healthier, and have considerably more “bandwidth” to help other people.

Taking care of yourself is one of the best possible things you can do for the people you love.

Treat Yourself Like a Ferrari.

What would happen if you were to care for your body as if it were a high-performance vehicle?

When you’re diligent about caring for your Ferrari properly (providing high-quality fuel, keeping up with regular oil changes, etc.), it can operate at its best for you.

Likewise, when you’re diligent about caring for yourself properly, you’ll be able to operate at your best for your business and for the people you love.

Discover Which Practices Work Best For You.

My sweetheart goes to the gym for two hours a day, five days a week. While I admire his consistency and discipline, I can’t find it in myself to commit to that. However, walking or getting on the elliptical runner for twenty minutes is something that I can get myself to do that boosts my energy significantly. And once I get started, I often exercise much more than that.

Personally, I need my self-care practices to be QUICK, or I won’t do them consistently. Taking a moment to set my intention for the day or stretch my calves, or write down five things I’m grateful for before going to sleep… these are all things I can accomplish. 30 minutes of meditation? Not happening.

The point is, find what works for YOU so that you’ll actually do it and get to enjoy the benefits.

Here’s a great place to start… determine what optimum health looks like for you in these key areas:

• Getting Enough Sleep

• Eating Well

• Exercising

• Drinking Enough Water

“Gamify” Your Self-Care.

Gamification is “the concept of applying game mechanics and game design techniques to engage and motivate people to achieve their goals.”

Just knowing that certain self-care practices are good for me are not enough.

I need the serotonin rush of checking something off my list. I need credit. I need accountability.

That’s why I created my Self-Care Score Card. This is a score card that I fill out throughout the week, earning points for completing specific self-care practices. At the end of the week, I send my score card to my accountability buddy.

I’m calling this a new approach to self-care because I’ve never heard of anyone else doing this.

If you’re curious, you can download a copy of my Self-Care Score Card here as well as a blank template to create your own:

Sample Self-Care Score Card

Blank Self-Care Score Card Template


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  1. PJ, I LOVE this! I can totally gamify my self care! My list isn’t going to be as big as yours! HOLY MOLY! But I am so so proud of you!! You are an inspiration!! <3 <3 <3 Thank you so much! Much Love & Gratitude, Kimberly ~ Gypsy

  2. You know me and I’m totally with you on the self-care aspect! I love that you say to find something that works for you – yeah!

    The other big thing to consider is that high stress and anxiety increases our risk of heart disease!

    I have to admit the game thing doesn’t work for me…but I see it being useful for many who need that accountability

  3. Great article PJ! I agree with you 100% Self-care is not selfish, it is our foremost responsibility. Just like the airlines safety instructions advise, that in the event of having to use the oxygen masks, parents should put their masks on before assisting their children. It is the same concept, when you care for yourself first, you enhance your ability to serve and help others. Thanks for sharing your great tips! :)

  4. Such great information PJ! Self-care is so important for entrepreneurs because we can literally work 24/7. I don’t gamify my self-care, but I do routine-ify mine. My trips to the gym are preset, repeating appointments in my calendar so they are on there every week before anything else. Morning and afternoon dog walks are also part of the routine.

  5. Susan Liddy says:

    “Treat yourself like a Ferrari” <– love that! Such a powerful mindset shift from "I have to work out or eat right." I recently started on FitBit and the gamification component is hugely motivating. Great article. Thank you for these important reminders, PJ.

  6. Hi, PJ. Would you tell me more about an accountability buddy? Is this a mastermind buddy or a coach?

    • Scott, it could be either or just a straight up accountability buddy. Basically, you just need someone to report to. For a few years now, I’ve asked different mastermind buddies to be the person that I send my score card to.

    • Thanks for the clarity, PJ. That gives me an idea I hadn’t thought of before. I have a habits checklist where I give myself stars when I follow through on 6 things each day. I’m going to let my coach know that I’m going to scan the form at the end of each month and email it to her. That’s going to keep me from copping out and make it more powerful.

  7. Fabulous article, PJ. Gamify your self-care. LOVE IT! I like your comments about making it simple or it’s not happening. I do many of the things you mention and always feel good afterwards.I’ve used your self-care score card to create my own list and appreciate how it helps me stay accountable.

  8. Being the Self-Care Queen, I find that self-care is much deeper than just taking care of your physical body. Self-Care are daily RITUALS for the body, mind and spirit. It is a self-discovery of who you are and deepening your practices so that you show up fully present in Divine Right Action. For me, self-care is an energetic practice that bends my mind, feels good to my body and feeds my soul. When I can maintain that vibration irregardless of the life challenge or situation that arises, then my self-care rituals are working! Besides self-care is a form of anti-aging. Who wouldn’t want that?

  9. Evelyn says:

    Gamification is a wonderful word, it puts a lightness into the chore aspect, like dancing when walking. Your scoring of Active Imagination is a delightful surprise because for me this is fully integrated throughout the day.
    With baby, for the next few years, you may find extra demands that will change your list – still an excellent idea- so do record your credits for those loving efforts. It could become a valuable document,
    even a scientific study if many new moms did so.
    I imagine you will also schedule notes on your son’s progress and the pockets of time you find free just
    to connect with self identity

  10. Deb Barnett says:

    Thank you for the self-care template and congratulations on your new bundle of joy!

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