Dealing with Denying Force

 “Dealing with Denying Force”

 
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My momma never told me “Life is like a box of chocolates,” but she has told me repeatedly that when you want to make a postive change in your life, it’s very common to hit some kind of resistance or “denying force,” as if the Universe is saying “Really? Are you sure you want that?”
 
Wherever you want to go next, there’s a process for getting there, and that process includes moving through challenges:
 
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1. Affirming “This is what I want!”
 
2. Denying “Here’s what’s in the way.”
 
3. Achieving “I got what I want, now what’s next?”

 
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Here’s an example from my own life…
 
It started out with celebrating how I was having the most relaxed and pleasurable launch ever.
 
That was the affirming phase, “This is what I want… to inspire thousands of entrepreneurs all over the world through this launch while still taking amazing care of myself and having a a fabulous life outside of work.”
 
Then came the denying force…
 
Shortly after the launch started, I was hit with a ridiculous number of tech issues:
 
• My website crashing… repeatedly
 
• My e-mail addresses randomly not working all of a sudden
 
• People getting two confirmation e-mails when they sign up for my paid offer… one of them wrong
 
• My video player malfunctioning and getting a gazillion e-mails about how my videos weren’t working
 
• Having the wrong webform on one of my sites so people were getting the wrong information
 
For one of my training calls, we ran into a scheduling challenge and had to pre-record the training. Then we ran into a tech challenge… Instant Teleseminar didn’t let you broadcast pre-recorded presentations that had slides, which this one did.
 
Here’s the good news… while I did feel irritated at times, I didn’t freak out. I didn’t abandoned my self-care practices. I just kept moving forward. And I was really proud of myself for that.
 
I wanted to share this with you because this is the kind of stuff that other experts don’t often talk about.
 
If you’ve hit denying force (and if you’ve run into challenges with technology), you are not alone. And you haven’t failed or done anything wrong. This is just part of the growth process. So take a deep breath and keep moving forward.
 

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Expanding Your Prosperity Consciousness

 “Expanding Your Prosperity Consciousness”

 
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Most people don’t use the word “prosperity” in conversation. You probably hear people talking about wanting to make more money, wanting to get out of debt, or wanting to attract more clients.
 
However, when people think they want more money, what they actually want is the experience that they think more money will give them, whether that’s happiness, peace of mind, or freedom. That experience is the experience of prosperity.
 
The first step in expanding your prosperity consciousness is to realize that if you are reading this article, you are already wealthy, at least wealthier than 95% of the world’s population.
 
Think about it. Would you trade financial lives without someone else on the planet at random? If you’re lucky, you could end up with the finances of someone extremely wealthy like Bill Gates or Richard Branson. However, the odds are against you. You would probably end up with a far lower standard of living than what you have now.
 
Take time into the equation. Would you trade places with a king or a queen 300 years ago? To “live like a king” sounds great. That was the most lavish possible lifestyle at the time. You would have feasts and servants. On the other hand, you wouldn’t have running water, electricity, phones, antibiotics, internet, airplanes, or any of the other modern conveniences that we tend to take for granted.
 
You’re already beginning to feel more prosperous, aren’t you?
 
The next step is to define what prosperity means to you so that you know what you’re going for and so that you’ll know when you get it. Otherwise, it’s like playing a game with no rules. How do you know when you’re winning?
 
According to popular minister and author Eric Butterworth:
 

Prosperity is a way of living and thinking,
and not just money or things.
 
Poverty is a way of living and thinking,
and not just a lack of money or things.”

 
As for the dictionary definition: prosperity is the state of flourishing, thriving, success, or good fortune. Prosperity often encompasses wealth but also includes others factors that are independent of wealth to varying degrees, such as happiness and health.
 
It’s also important to ask yourself:
 
Do you want to be wealthy?
 
If so, what is “Wealth?”
 
How much money would you need to have to consider yourself wealthy? $100,000 per year in income? $5,000,000 net worth? It’s completely subjective, different for everybody, and it probably even changes for you over time.
 
The word “wealth” comes from the old English word “weal”, which means “well-being.”
 
When you say you want to be wealthy, you are really saying that you want to live in the experience of well-being. It’s not the actual dollars (or euros or yen, etc.) that you want. It’s the experience that you believe those dollars will bring you.
 
Here’s my definition, that you’re welcome to adopt for yourself… prosperity is the experience of feeling grateful for the abundance that’s in your life right now AND looking forward to even more.
 
When you cultivate that way of thinking and living, can you see how it’s easier to attract more wealth than when you’re living in scarcity and fear?

 
 

The Fastest and Easiest Path to Prosperity

“The Fastest and Easiest Path to Prosperity”

 

This post is an excerpt from my first book, The Little Book of Prosperity:

 

The fastest and easiest way to tune into prosperity is to get into an emotional state of GRATITUDE.

Gratitude is an extremely powerful emotion. Robert A. Emmons from the University of California Davis and Micheal E. McCullogh from the University of Miami conducted a long-term research project designed to study the effects of gratitude. Here are some of their findings:

  • In an experimental comparison, those who kept gratitude journals on a weekly basis exercised more regularly, reported fewer physical symptoms, felt better about their lives as a whole, and were more optimistic about the upcoming week compared to those who recorded hassles or neutral life events.
  • Participants who kept gratitude lists were more likely to have made progress toward important personal goals over a two-month period compared to subjects in the other experimental conditions.
  • In a sample of adults with neuromuscular disease, a 21-day gratitude intervention resulted in greater amounts of high energy positive moods, a greater sense of feeling connected to others, more optimistic ratings of one’s life, and better sleep duration and sleep quality, relative to a control group.
  • Grateful people report higher levels of positive emotions, life satisfaction, vitality, optimism and lower levels of depression and stress. The disposition toward gratitude appears to enhance pleasant feeling states more than it diminishes unpleasant emotions. Grateful people do not deny or ignore the negative aspects of life.
  • People with a strong disposition toward gratitude have the capacity to be empathic and to take the perspective of others.  They are rated as more generous and more helpful by people in their social networks.

The simplest and fastest way to tap into your feelings of gratitude is a process to make a list of people, pets, places, things, and experiences that you are grateful for. You can do this mentally or out loud. I’ve found that it’s most effective for me when I write it down.

A highly beneficial practice is to keep a gratitude journal and every night before you go to bed, write down 5 things that you’re grateful for.

In fact, I invite you to leave a comment here and let me know 5 things that you’re grateful for.   Thanks!